6 critical stages

October 25th
HIDING FROM LOVE

Chapter 10 – Harmful hiding six critical stages
Our parents may have done a good job of helping us through important emotional processes, yet things go wrong in everyone’s childhood. It’s here that we develop our early defenses. Discuss the six stages in the process: 1) Our needs go unmet, 2) We experience injury to the soul, 3) We make legitimate needs bad, 4) We deny our own needs, 5) We develop false solutions, and 6) We produce bad fruit.

Chapter 11 & 12 – Harmful hiding: The results & the cost.
When we are ashamed of our needs, we are unable to feel safe about sharing them with God and others and so we hide them. Can you recognize any needs you may have felt shame about?
How does ”living in the past” keep your heart in emotional limbo? Why does telling someone to “forget the past” never work?
Have you been able to identify a hiding style in someone you know since doing this study? Why do you think it is easier to recognize these things in others than in yourself?
Harmful hiding ultimately ends up costing us something. What has it cost you?